A thought-provoking quiz from “Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World” by Gary Chapman & Arlene Pelicane
These simple questions can help determine whether or not screen time is harming your child’s overall health. Give a score to each question using the following ratings:
0 = Never or rarely true
1 = Occasionally true
2 = Usually true
3 = Always true
____ Your child is upset when you ask him to stop his screen activity to come to dinner or another activity.
____ Your child asks you to buy a digital device such as an iPod after you have already said no.
____ Your child has trouble completing his homework because he is busy watching television or playing video games.
____ Your child refuses to help with chores around the house, choosing instead to play with screens.
____ Your child asks to play a video game or other screen-related activity after you have said no.
____ Your child does not get sixty minutes of physical activity outside of school each day.
____ Your child does not give frequent eye contact to others in the home.
____ Your child would rather play video games than go outside to play with friends.
____ Your child doesn’t really enjoy anything that does not involve screens.
____ If you restricted all screen use for one day, your child would be irritable and whiny.
If your child scores:
10 or below: Your child does not appear to have too much screen time. He seems able to exercise appropriate control and boundaries.
11–20: Your child may be depending on screen time too much. You will want to monitor screen time more judiciously and watch for growing reliance upon screens.
21–30: Your child may be addicted to screens. You may want to meet with someone you trust for help in formulating a “strategic withdrawal plan”.
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