Too Much “Screen Time”?

A thought-provoking quiz from “Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World” by Gary Chapman & Arlene Pelicane

These simple questions can help determine whether or not screen time is harming your child’s overall health. Give a score to each question using the following ratings:

0 = Never or rarely true
1 = Occasionally true
2 = Usually true
3 = Always true

____ Your child is upset when you ask him to stop his screen activity to come to dinner or another activity.

____ Your child asks you to buy a digital device such as an iPod after you have already said no.

____ Your child has trouble completing his homework because he is busy watching television or playing video games.

____ Your child refuses to help with chores around the house, choosing instead to play with screens.

____ Your child asks to play a video game or other screen-related activity after you have said no.

____ Your child does not get sixty minutes of physical activity outside of school each day.

____ Your child does not give frequent eye contact to others in the home.

____ Your child would rather play video games than go outside to play with friends.

____ Your child doesn’t really enjoy anything that does not involve screens.

____ If you restricted all screen use for one day, your child would be irritable and whiny.

 

If your child scores:
10 or below: Your child does not appear to have too much screen time. He seems able to exercise appropriate control and boundaries.

11–20: Your child may be depending on screen time too much. You will want to monitor screen time more judiciously and watch for growing reliance upon screens.

21–30: Your child may be addicted to screens. You may want to meet with someone you trust for help in formulating a “strategic withdrawal plan”.

 

Look for these and many other helpful resources at www.5lovelanguages.com.

Drills for Grown-Up Social Success, six interactive scenarios to help you build your child’s confidence in courtesies and social interaction.

25 Common Courtesies for Kids, a quick list to help you shape goals and expectations for your child’s behavior.

The Love Languages Mystery Game to help you determine your child’s primary love language.

50 Table Talk Questions for Your Family, a guide to fresh and lively conversations at family mealtimes.

“Returning To Our First Love” by Pastor Fred McGlone

Our senior class has heard from the Lord and shared that the theme for the 2014-2015 school year is “Set Ablaze”. In the context of celebrating the school’s 30th year Anniversary, they see God moving to strengthen our foundations as we move forward into the future He has in store for us. “Foundational to our foundations” is the rekindling of the flames of our first love for Him. This forms the basis of our ability to in turn love others and create the Kingdom culture God desires for this school community.

 

In 1 John 4:19-2 we read, “We love, because He first loved us.”   Reality is the dwelling place of God because He IS ultimate reality. We will not find Him in the place we hope or think we ought to be, because He is waiting for us to see Him in the place we actually ARE. Only He can lead us THROUGH. Only He can lead us OUT. Only He can lead us ON. His desire is to meet us where we are, moment by moment, so our corporate life can be can be punctuated by times of sharing what we have seen God doing, and magnifying His Name together.

 

He is in the process of restoring our first love for Him. We love, because He “first-loved” us! We can respond afresh and anew, and return to our first love, every time we see Him meeting and touching us with HIS love in the midst of the REALITY of our trials, tests, temptations, and tribulations.

 

Even conviction of sin and a willingness to recognize the futility of trying to live godly in our own strength are opportunities to be renewed in our first love, because they are vivid reminders of the wonders of His grace, the wideness of His mercy, and the power of His love, which He DAILY and freely pours out on our lives. Jesus came not to condemn, but to redeem DAILY!

 

Baptism in water and the Holy Spirit are monuments to and landmarks of His first-love for us. Holy Communion is a perpetual and personal “picture,” as well as a present pouring out of His first-love for us. Even our self-examination prior to receiving the Body and Blood of Jesus confronts us with Father’s “first-loving” us when He made, in Christ, payment for “the complete and total forgiveness of each and every one of our sins.”

 

The daily REALITY of our lives provides an endless array of opportunities to “return to our first love, as Father meets us in the midst of it all with His first-love for us.

 

“The Art of Responding to Arguments” By James Fay

Question: What is one of the primary ways that kids learn?

Answer: Modeling (subconscious imitation of adult behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes).

Question: Who becomes a model for kids?

Answer: A person they see as both strong and loving at the same time.

Question: Once a child accepts a person as a model, how does the child see his/her own
position or role?

Answer: As a child, student, and a follower who should listen to the adult.

Question: What happens to the adult’s role if the child can hook him/her into debates or
arguments about limits and boundaries?

Answer: Their roles change to that of equals. It is no longer an adult/child relationship. It
is now an adult/adult relationship.

Question: If that happens, what happens to the adult’s role as a model?

Answer: It loses effectiveness.

Question: Does the child now feel a strong need to listen to that adult?

Answer: No.

Question: If this is true, then why is it so important that we not engage in arguments
with our kids about the limits we set?

Answer: If we do, we lose our status as models. Then we find ourselves demanding that
sports heroes/others become the role models for our kids.

Question: Who should be the real role models for kids?

Answer: Parents and teachers.

Note: This is the reason that Jim Fay of Love and Logic places such a strong emphasis upon the use of the Neutralizing Arguments technique for those times when kids try to hook you into arguments. Master the art of responding to arguments with, “Could be”, and “What did I say?” Then smile and walk away.

You can pick up some great ideas about putting a stop to arguing and backtalk on the audio CD, Love and Logic Magic When Kids Drain Your Energy, from www.LoveandLogic.com. Don’t listen if you hate to giggle.